Gaslighting: The Narcissist’s Favorite Tool Of Manipulation

How To Avoid The Gaslight Effect and Healing From Hidden Narcissistic Abuse

Author: Dr. Theresa J. Covert

Still struggling from the effects of Gaslighting?

The Gaslight Effect is not officially recognized, nor is it widely even known.
Even when it is accepted, recognized and known not many people seem to know what to DO ABOUT IT to heal it…   The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them.

DO YOU RECOGNIZE ANY OF THESE SCENARIOS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

• Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex
• Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened
• Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity
• Feeling like you don’t know the difference between right and wrong
• Feeling like you’re losing your mind
• You’re second-guessing your memory
• Doubting yourself and your sanity
• Feeling like you’re always apologizing
• Feeling like you aren’t good enough
• Feeling desperately misunderstood
• Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief
• Extreme bouts of rage
• An inability to be comfortable with yourself
• Strange dreams
• Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression
• Feeling misunderstood
• Feeling lonely
• Ruined self confidence
• Extreme weight loss or weight gain
• Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective)
• Feelings of helplessness and despair
• A desire to self isolate

The list goes on….

“Why doesn’t anyone understand?”

This is a common statement that I hear abused people say all the time.

• Gaslighting is a covert aggressive way of distorting another person’s perception of reality to the point that that person questions their sanity or their memory.
• Gaslighting is crazy-making, it makes you think that you’re actually going crazy.
• Gaslighting is a way of hiding the abuse.
• Gaslighting is lying with a goal.
• The motive behind the gaslighting is to make you think that you’re crazy or that your memory doesn’t work right.   So you can’t trust yourself and your perceptions of reality.
• This means you’ll defer to the abuser for an account of what’s real so slowly over time the abuser becomes the authority over your life.
• Gaslighting takes place in relationships, like one-on-one relationships.  It takes place in friendships, in family, in work, you’ll see gaslighting on the news, you’ll hear gaslighting coming from politicians, corporate shills, cult leaders, advertising commercials, etc.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Top 10 Signs You’re Being Manipulated with Gaslighting
• 80 Things Narcissists Say During Gaslighting
• Six Empowering Ways to Disarm a Narcissist and Take Control
• How to Avoid Mental Manipulation
• How to Deal with the Effects of Gaslighting
• How Narcissists Employ Smart Devices
  And much more…

WHAT YOU NEED NOW:

1.  You need someone who has experienced the same things you have.   Someone who understands narcissists from the inside.
2.  You need someone with the knowledge, training, education and personal experience of navigating this mine field of emotions and healing.   Only someone with these skills can lead you through the pitfalls that arise when you are leaving a narcissist.